TAMI WOLLENSAK, CDFA®, CDLP
Can you keep the house? Find out before you sign.
Before you make a decision you can't undo, get clear on what keeping the house actually looks like, and whether it's truly possible for you.
Can I Keep the House? The Complete Guide and Workbook
A step-by-step guide plus 8 fill-in worksheets, so you understand your options and your own numbers before anything is finalized.
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What's inside the guide:
The ROOTED Method™, a six-step framework that takes the house decision one manageable step at a time
The four real paths for the house: refinancing, assuming the mortgage, selling, and co-owning, and what each one actually requires
How to test your plan before you agree to it: whether you can qualify on your own, whether support income or your assets can count, and how timing affects your options
What to get in writing in your settlement, plus the red flags that mean your plan may not work
8 fill-in worksheets: document checklist, debt inventory, income and support, equity division, monthly budget, keep vs. sell, decision checklist, and negotiation notes
Written by a CDFA® and Divorce Mortgage Specialist, and delivered instantly. Yours to keep and revisit as many times as you need.
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You're not wrong for wanting to keep the house.
For many people it represents stability, familiarity, and control during a time that feels anything but certain.
But here's what most people don't find out until it's too late to change course: divorce agreements and mortgage guidelines don't always align. Being awarded the house in your settlement doesn't guarantee a lender will qualify you for it.
That gap is where the costly mistakes happen, and this guide exists to help you see it before you're locked in.
What can go wrong if you don't get clear on this first:
Thinking you can keep the house, then finding out you don't qualify
Taking on a payment that becomes unmanageable over time
Giving up retirement assets for home equity that doesn't actually support your future
Being forced to sell later, under pressure, on someone else's timeline
These situations aren't rare. They're just not talked about early enough.
Hi, I'm Tami Wollensak.
I've spent 30 years in mortgage lending, and since 2020 I've worked only with people navigating divorce.
More importantly, I've sat at that kitchen table myself, trying to figure out what was actually possible.
What I see over and over: people making house decisions without knowing what a lender will actually require, and that can change everything. My work is to help you see that gap before anything is finalized, so you can move forward with a plan that actually works.
This is for you if:
You're going through a divorce and aren't sure keeping the house is even possible
You want to understand how mortgage qualification actually works post-divorce
You want clarity before anything is finalized, so you don't make a decision you regret
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What readers are saying:
I came into this thinking keeping the house was my only option. This helped me understand what was actually possible, and what would truly work long term.
I thought I would be able to keep the house no matter what. This helped me see the full financial picture and avoid a decision I wouldn't have been able to undo.
No one had ever explained the gap between the divorce agreement and the mortgage process to me before. That insight alone changed everything.
Frequently Asked Questions
What exactly do I get?
One 30-page digital guide: the step-by-step ROOTED Method™ for the house decision, plus 8 fill-in worksheets you can print or complete on a tablet. It's delivered instantly as a PDF.
How do I access it after I buy?
Your file downloads immediately after checkout, and we also email you a receipt with a download link, so if you ever need it again, it's right there in your inbox.
Is this specific to my state?
No. This is general, national guidance on how mortgage qualification and divorce agreements typically interact. Because mortgage and divorce laws vary by state, we recommend confirming your specific situation with your own legal counsel or financial advisor.
Does this replace working with a lender or attorney?
No. This is educational. It's designed to help you ask the right questions and avoid common mistakes, not replace legal, financial, or mortgage advice.
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